SPRING TIME!!!

Gosh, at least it LOOKS like spring out there...... going out there is another story though... my yard is desperate for cleaning and I really should be raking.... but here I sit, in my warm house, typing on my blog about music again.....

Last night I had the experience of meeting a 'fan'. I thought I knew all my 'fans', since they are mostly my friends and family and people with whom I make music. Of course, I have always HOPED I had real fans (people who I don't know, but who know about me, follow my music, and talk about it to other folks) but I never KNEW until last night.

I played at the Open Mic at Peint O Grwr in Chatham last night.... I bet it has been over a year since I last made it to that OM. It is unique in that there is a house band who will back you up and generally do a great job of it (However--last night I had the experience of being backed up by people *I* didn't know and neither did the other musicians that I DID know..... note to myself:  If people want to back you up but they look at you with blank stares when you are going through your chords before the song, have the guts to say 'Why don't I play it alone this time', LOL!!)

As always though, people at that open mic are kind and supportive and complimentary as you get off the stage, and, well, it was what it was.....

So back to my story...... My friends and I stayed until another beer would have been too many and we saw most of the show and we gathered up our things and walked out.....

On the sidewalk is a young woman who stops me and says 'Marilyn! NO! I saw you in there and was just telling my friend here about how you sing Neil Young songs and I really wanted to hear you and you are LEAVING?'  Turns out she was a frequent flyer at REV Song Circle nights and had noticed they were gone and was wondering, and SO GLAD to maybe hear me again, and so on..... so I told them about the Song Circle at Red Dot and listened to her again tell her friend about my songs, how I love Neil Young, where I have traveled to see him and play Neil Young songs with other people out in California, and all sorts of things that it never occurred to me that people who don't KNOW me would know ABOUT me!! I literally do not remember ever seeing or meeting this woman, but she knows so much....

What a freaky (and yes, complimentary) situation.... it does kinda twist the head around a bit.

Well, the sun is shining out there, the yard is calling, and I really should get out there and work. Hope that you all have some interesting, freaky, complimentary situations this weekend to add a little zip to your lives....

Song Circle LIVES!

Thanks to Alana at Red Dot, we will be continuing the Song Circle! Monday, starting March 18, 2013, we will move to Red Dot, 7-9pm! Yeah!!!

Breaking Heart

If you can't tell by my last blog, I love the Song Circle. However, right after I wrote that blog entry, we were contacted by ASCAP and the owner of the venue had to decide to stop all the music there. So, the Song Circle is looking for another home.....

So, my final word of advice.... if you start a circle, advertise locally, avoid the internet, particularly 'VENUE listings' like on Reverbnation or Sonic Bids.... or pick a venue that already has licenses....

We will survive, anyway....

Song Circles.... Start your own!!!

A lot of people have commented to me about how lucky I am to have a place to go every week to jam with like-minded people who share my love-- of the music, of the song and just the PLEASURE of making good sounds.....

I have also had people write to me from other places asking if I would come and start something like the Song Circle at REV where they live, so that they can have the FUN of making music with other folks.

If you can't FIND a place to go to make music with other people, than DEVELOP a place to go and make music with other people. Here is my story, and suggestions to YOU for starting up a place where you can meet other musicians, learn skills that you will not learn alone, and JAM.

BACKGROUND:

When I first began the Song Circle, I was probably the least skilled in the group of people who were coming, so you do NOT have to be a great player or singer. You DO have to be welcoming, encouraging and hard working to get the thing going. It also helps to leave your own ego at the door and be open to new sounds. Be patient with people less skilled than you, and thick-skinned with people more skilled. Having the philosophy that all people can participate in music making, that making music is primarily an act of love, and should be FUN, will set the stage for some amazing moments in the journey.....

I believe very strongly that music is for sharing, both with an audience as well as other musicians, but I also know there are a LOT of folks out there wishing to find people to play with...... as a matter of fact, I said the same thing a few years ago, and went looking to try and find musician friends.

At first, I thought that going to Open Mics would help me find folks to play with, and it did, but in a very limited fashion. There were OMs where networking was easy, and then there were the ones that felt more like a contest with the rivalry tension overriding any joy in sharing the music (except, of course, for the folks on top the heap...lol). But, overall, the purpose was to perform, not collaborate, and that certainly has its place in the musical community. I was looking for people to play WITH, though...

People told me about the Spencertown Acoustic Jam, and I started to attend monthly. I really wasn't ready at that time for the level of playing that happened there and felt out of place and embarrassed over my lack of skill related to the other attendees. However, the folks were welcoming and encouraging and I have to say, I always had a great time!! That jam continues, although it was moved to a new location and I haven't been there in a couple years..... BUT-- I based the Song Circle at REV on what I learned there.

SONG CIRCLE AT REV:

The Song Circle at REV was originally an unamplified Open Mic on Mondays, run by some really cool young people. In time, though, the number of attendees dwindled and it looked like the thing was going to die. I offered to take it over if I could run it my way (I admit it....I AM a control freak), changed the day to Thursday (a day I thought most people would more likely come out, but not have a gig) and the format to the Song Circle, or hootenanny.

At the song circle we take turns. I have people sign in on a board..... I can't remember names well and this way I get to learn names quickly and I won't pass over a quiet shy person inadvertently. When it is your turn, you can play a song (and it is ok to request that everyone just listen and not play along), request a song from someone else (often to learn a song they do well, for example) or PASS. We go around until time is up!

Benefits of a song circle over an open mic include turn-taking that is ONE song at a time. At an open mic, there are many people who only come for their own performance, arriving late and leaving as soon as they are done (allowing some time to schmooze, of course, to get a gig from the owner of the venue).  At a song circle  you will rarely come across a person who only pays attention when it is their turn to play. Overall, at song circles,  the concept of going around the circle and taking turns encourages folks to participate in collaboration, in listening to each other, and in conversation about the song presented. 'What chord was that in the chorus?', 'Did you write that? COOL!', and 'That song Fred did reminded me of this song' are the sort of conversations that start and are the basis of friendships and musical collaborations that continue beyond song circle nights. As a matter of fact, one of the difficulties in leading the circle is allowing enough conversation without interfering with the reason people are there....to make music!!! I try to make sure that everyone gets at least three songs in regardless of the number of people there.

People learn to listen and contribute rather than overpower each other.... It quickly becomes apparent to most folks that less is more and supporting the leader of the particular tune is much more satisfying than running over him. I have only rarely had to address 'loudness' or 'rudeness' issues (always in private). My experience is that if people are not in tune with the concept of the collaborative song circle, they generally just stop coming. I feel bad for them, and hope that they learn to lose the ego and/or the insecurity that prevents them from just enjoying contributing to the community rather than needing to be the 'Star'.

Another little detail is that I include a time towards the end of every evening for 'Announcements', and encourage people to promote their gigs and support each other when schedules allow. We are building a Musical Community, and support is important!!!

As people get to know each other, conversations get a little more meaningful and it is common now to hear folks giving constructive comments on technique, songwriting, theory, rhythm, etc in a friendly, helpful manner. The evening is FUN, you make FRIENDS and FANS and it is EDUCATIONAL to boot!!!

START YOUR OWN:

If you want to start something similar, you would need a public place willing to host the evening, a good day for your community and some promotion or friends to help you get the idea off the ground. 

Coffeehouses are good places because people who are drinking alcohol are often not really interested in paying attention and there are far more distractions, but your community may have a watering hole that is conducive to the format. I have seen song circles on stages, in public places such as libraries and town rec centers, in non-profit art type buildings, at guitar repair shops and music stores, etc. If the place you are approaching is a business, point out that you will be bringing in paying customers (and if too many of the attendees are not buying, remember to advertise the great products of the generous host to the attendees!!) The place you choose should be comfortable, have adequate space for people, equipment and audience and be convenient to get to! Get out there and start looking, talk to people, and you will find a place.

For the day chosen, think about your community and when most of your target musicians would be available. Thursday work really well for Song Circle at REV.... the attendees are generally folks who work during the week and gig on weekends. Thursday is a good time for them to rehearse for their gig, try out that new song before the gig, warm up for Friday night, etc.... You may find a better day for your group. If you can't draw folks out, change the day and you may be surprised. Another thing to think about is doing the circle once a month, every other week or weekly. I choose weekly so that people had more chances to come out and get 'hooked' on the circle, but again, your mileage may vary....

Finally, promotion. ~sigh~

There in lies the rub, really. Is it a circle if no one comes?

I was lucky to take over an apparently dying open mic, so there were people who knew about musical activity in the venue, and I was able to approach people I had met there to get the idea started. If you know NO ONE, it will be difficult. However, if you have just a friend or two who promise to show up, particularly if you have chosen a venue with people naturally coming and going throughout your time there, with patience you will grow.

At first, the Song Circle at REV had just a few people, and a couple times I played alone for the circle, but we attracted attention and a small group started to show up regularly. Those people told other people and we grew. Now we average about 7-10 folks playing on any given evening, which is perfect for the space. There are about 20 people who are 'regulars', but only a few come every week. It is very important to ALWAYS be there, even if you are alone, because the worse thing will be if a musician shows up to 'check it out' and there is no one there..... you just lost him and all his friends too.... 

My first advice on promotion is WORD OF MOUTH. Gain a good reputation among both skilled players (FUN!) and beginning players (WELCOME!) and you will have a group interesting to a broad range of musicians. Make sure your local music store knows about you. Put up signs around town, take advantage of public service announcements on radios and in newspapers and don't forget the internet!! Facebook is where I do most of my promotion work, but I have also gotten some really interesting folks by doing a Meetup Group (google it....if you start the process then stop before paying, they will email you in a couple days with a greatly reduced rate for starting the group.... and six months may be all you will need to kick start your evening). I also worked at getting listed on the various Open Mic lists on the internet, as well as local internet listings (google is your friend!!)

Remember that every person who walks in through the door will talk to other people about the evening, both musicians and audience, and try hard to make it interesting, fun, welcoming to every single attendee. YOU will set the mood of the evening and people will return if they get what they came for. 

HAVE FUN, it is contagious!!!!

Piano

When I first started this blog, I told the story of my path to becoming a musician, a singer, a songwriter.... that story starts  here, but is continued throughout this blog.....

One of my first music memories is taking lessons on the piano. I wanted to learn SO BAD, and the music teacher in elementary school, Mrs Rumpke, kindly taught me at school for a while, but then the lessons moved to her home (not so great, gas was expensive, my father's time was limited, and he did not like to drive 'all the way to germantown' to pick me up.... but he did).

What he would NOT do, is buy a piano.... the house was too small (it IS), pianos were too expensive, and they made NOISE..... so I got a tiny toy piano only two octaves long. As you can imagine, that did not work as time went on, and the paper piano I tried to practice on did not work either.....

So, she dropped me from lessons. I can't blame her, how could she teach when I could not practice? It did break my heart, though.....

And I grew up. I bought guitars and learned how to play them. I bought a keyboard and used it mostly to teach myself rhythm. I do remember the notes on the piano and I do remember all my major scales and I love the sound of a piano..... but I never had the opportunity to own one.

A year or two ago, I saw a piano advertised on Freecycle (check it out if you don't know about it!!!). At the same time, my buddies also saw the same piano and we independently 'put in for it'.... but I got it first, and tried to find someone to bring it to my house.....

My friends and I figured out that we had all 'put in' for the same piano, but they had wanted to get it for REV, the coffeehouse we have Song Circle in!!! The REV was getting redone, and we had to move the piano right away, so they moved it to my house for me to hold while the REV was getting made over.....

Time went on and on, and it became pretty obvious that that piano was not going to make it to REV, and finally we decided I could keep it. However, it was in a tiny room and no one ever went in there to play it.....

This weekend, I had the piano moved to my living room, and tomorrow she will get fine tuned. As I sat and looked at her today, I realized that I had at LONG LAST gotten something I have dreamed about almost my whole life..... a PIANO!!!!  And, inadvertently, I had decorated the top with a picture of my grandparents, the grandparents that inspired my song 'Dancing Tonight'. My grandfather is the only relative I have that was musical, and everyone tells me he was VERY talented..... and I remember fondly the piano in his home that was unused and out of tune, but still loved....

I feel like I have completed a circle.

Just wanted to share that.....

And here she is, at HOME!